It’s time for a confession: I’ve been having an affair with Jack. And Sawyer. And Ben. And Sayid. And Jin. And Desmond. And Jacob.

It’s time for a confession: I’ve been having an affair with Jack.

And Sawyer. And Ben. And Sayid. And Jin. And Desmond. And Jacob.

Once a week, I’ve been traveling to a deserted island for our hour-long rendezvous. Sometimes it’s scary. Without fail, it’s always exciting. I always think about it obsessively the next day.

My husband? He knows about it. Usually he rolls his eyes and picks up a car magazine. For one hour a week, he indulges me with this chance to lose myself in the twisting, turning storylines of ABC’s “Lost.”

Even so, I know he’s been looking forward to tonight for many years: Now, it’s finally the series finale of “Lost.” The affair will be over. He’ll get his wife back.

For “Lost”-ies, Sunday is the culmination of six years invested in this television series about a group of airplane crash survivors stuck on a mysterious island. We’ve watched as characters fall in love (only to have some killed off, of course), fight, regain their hope of being rescued and subsequently have it shattered again.

I started watching “Lost” a bit late. I caught the first few seasons on DVD when my son was an up-all-night newborn. The show was so addicting that I would hear the baby cry at 1 a.m. and think, “Oh great! I can go find out what happens on ‘Lost’ now!”

Eventually, I caught up to the show as it played on prime-time television, and even though I don’t work in an office, I got sucked into virtual water-cooler discussions about “Lost” the next day.

“Lost”-ies had their theories and suspicions about the show. It was packed with so many subtleties — few of which make it on air by accident — that one could become a full-time “Lost” analyst.

Perhaps the most addictive quality that has made “Lost” such a cult favorite is that it takes viewers in so many directions, they don’t know who to root for. It’s never really clear who the bad guy is, because even the most wretched villains have redeeming qualities as well. What we may find in tonight’s answers-all finale is that no one is truly a bad guy, but that everyone has a little good and a little bad inside of them.

“Lost” gives us the chance to do what we rarely can bring ourselves to do: Look past the bad in people to see what’s underneath. In real life, we’re too quick to judge, too anxious to write someone off. We don’t want to stick around to find out what’s beneath the gruff surface or the awkward social meanderings. We never stop to realize that there might be a reason — a very valid reason — why someone turned out that way.

So while “Lost” may have been a once-a-week addiction for its throng of fans, it also can serve as a catalyst for real-life tolerance. Maybe we can take the lesson of “Lost” that people are rarely as they seem, and push ourselves past our comfort level to see something more.

We may just find a hidden treasure after all.

Contact Elizabeth Davies at edavies@rrstar.com.